I met my current boyfriend unexpectedly, and it was via facebook. I didn't think about being in a relationship or anything that time. I didn't even start to have feelings for him until I got to know him for more than a year and finally met him directly. Guess maybe the right one indeed often come when we're not trying too hard looking for them after all.

I still do what I like to do though. Life doesn't revolve around love partners. It's kinda odd how many youngsters, both gays and straights alike, seem to be easily getting depressed of they are single, it's like having girlfriends/boyfriends is a must and being single is a disgrace. I've seen how many people refuse to go out on weekends and solely waiting themselves to be asked to go out with someone, if they're bored half to death and really want to go out shopping and others, yet they don't want to ask or invite their friends first. Weird. Or maybe because I'm not limited to be in company and used to hang out on my own. I'm cool going out alone or with others. At least I'm enjoying things that I like rather than self-pitying myself for having no one to ask me to hang out.

Being into older guys I always thought it's easier to find someone but I was wrong. When I realized that a relationship was not going to be easy, I just ignored all dating websites and deleted everything and start focusing on going out, pursuing my hobbies and meeting my close friends as much as I could. Nowadays, I say my life is more fulfilled this way rather than being in a relationship.

I come from a very small country (Malta, and yes I know it says Ireland on my profile, and I don't know how that happened) and since we only have a population of a little over 450,000 that makes it even more difficult to find someone.

So focus on yourself, do things you love doing and surround yourself with friends (real friends) and you will start being happy again!

Also, I wouldn't obsess over your looks and body. Taking care of yourself, being fit, comfortable with yourself and confident will surely draw some good guys to you.

the whole planet is SINGLE! you come and go ALONE!
stop looking and in this very moment someone will come, promise!
but you REALLY have to stop!! also start loving yourself… you're unique!!!

Happy, care-free people are physically and emotionally attractive. People ‘looking’ for a relationship come across as desperate and needy – not attractive traits.

There's not wrong with being socially awkward, we all have our moments - my advice is just try and push yourself out of your comfort zone even if it's just a tiny bit - How about joining a club or something that you have an interest in ? It might not get you a date but you might meet some new friends - and those friends have circles of their own friends and eventually you'll be walking down the aisle in no time.

But don't think there's something wrong with you because you're single. There's no rule book that says that after this certain amount of years you should be in a relationship. Just be you.

Our relationship ended January 17, 2012 after 32 years 10 months . He did not return from hospital.

das ist so traurig… aber wenigsten hast du ihn gekannt. kopf hoch!

But being single is not that bad

Your mindset is completely wrong to begin with. You're thinking about being single as if something's broken and now you have to fix it. As others mentioned, easiest fix is to get ripped and become a slut. You'll feel like you've accomplished something and others will praise your effort.

Agree on that…