Coming out to children??

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Fri, 15 Sep 2017 22:13:36 GMT

spam17 — Fri, 15 Sep 2017 22:13:36 GMT

It’s never too early to come out to your child/ren.

Kids understand love.

What they don’t understand is deception or hiding.

And it’s never too late to come out to your child.

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Fri, 16 Sep 2016 19:22:19 GMT

killerbody14 — Fri, 16 Sep 2016 19:22:19 GMT

Gay parents children probably are well educated and decent children. They will understand it, and they wont have any problems with that. However, right time should be waited

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Mon, 01 Aug 2016 13:37:37 GMT

ckboy — Mon, 01 Aug 2016 13:37:37 GMT

It mostly depends on the context in which he grew up. In a liberal one, 13 is enough but in a conservative one is not.

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Wed, 29 Jul 2015 04:20:32 GMT

revenger — Wed, 29 Jul 2015 04:20:32 GMT

Let them find out. Makes it look easier

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Wed, 01 Jul 2015 17:34:27 GMT

alveer — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 17:34:27 GMT

hmmm

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Tue, 23 Jun 2015 01:59:56 GMT

dannyfromnb — Tue, 23 Jun 2015 01:59:56 GMT

I do not currently have children but its not something to hide. One of my straight friends has a 4 year old child with his fiance and she comes over with them to visit me and my man… they just act like they usually do, introducing their friends to their child and showing her we are just like any other couple.

Should be brought up kind of like the topic of sex... as it comes up, no pressure, no hiding. I'd say to anyone with children to just be yourself and don't worry so much about it.

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Sun, 03 May 2015 13:28:46 GMT

Neptunes — Sun, 03 May 2015 13:28:46 GMT

I don't have children of my own, but I work with children and have two nephews and a neice. I have never seen any reason to hide anything. I personally don't believe in a person being gay, straight or bi or whatever, so I don't tell people I am this or that sexuality, but I wouldn't hide or lie about the fact that I was engaged to a dude before. And that I have dated guys. Of course there's a time and place for everything and discussing your sex life with a young child is not something that they're ready for, but if a kid knows that a mom and dad are together what's the problem of that kid knowing that I am together with a guy?

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Thu, 04 Dec 2014 13:48:01 GMT

kagaminelen — Thu, 04 Dec 2014 13:48:01 GMT

@Sphygmotsu:

I think the earlier the better; in fact, I think waiting until they "understand it" is way later than it should be.

Early exposure makes it more likely they will 'accept' it and not use it as a point of resentment. Further, as alexandyr85 says, most kids aren't stupid. They probably already know, or at least suspect, unless you don't see them often, which I hope is not the case.

Just tell them, but personally, I recommend doing so in a way other than "let's sit down and have a really serious discussion", I'd try to find a way to bring it up in a casual conversation that has a lead-in, like LGBT rights or watching a TV show that has an LGBT character in it or the like. It'll make it less awkward for both of you.

Oh that's a good idea

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Sun, 23 Nov 2014 15:30:19 GMT

bonerrs — Sun, 23 Nov 2014 15:30:19 GMT

In the US, I would say if your kid is in school, they probably get it by now. But I think there most definitely an element of the appropriate timing of a conversation. I know one friend whose 7 year old son just up and asked him one day, "Daddy, do you, you know, like like Steve? Because if you do, you should probably tell him."

It was his way of encouraging his single father to pursue a relationship with someone that he knew my friend enjoyed spending time with. In fact, the three of them would often do things together, like go to the zoo, and the movies.

I think a lot of the language is out there now, for kids. They can identify GLBT characters in media, and it is part of conversation more so than at any time. But I think really, only you know your kid. But I will say, they are pretty smart.

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Tue, 16 Sep 2014 06:27:32 GMT

rickydrexel — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 06:27:32 GMT

@Sphygmotsu:

I think the earlier the better; in fact, I think waiting until they "understand it" is way later than it should be.

Early exposure makes it more likely they will 'accept' it and not use it as a point of resentment. Further, as alexandyr85 says, most kids aren't stupid. They probably already know, or at least suspect, unless you don't see them often, which I hope is not the case.

Just tell them, but personally, I recommend doing so in a way other than "let's sit down and have a really serious discussion", I'd try to find a way to bring it up in a casual conversation that has a lead-in, like LGBT rights or watching a TV show that has an LGBT character in it or the like. It'll make it less awkward for both of you.

Agreed!! Thanks!!

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Tue, 16 Sep 2014 06:15:37 GMT

Sphygmotsu — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 06:15:37 GMT

I think the earlier the better; in fact, I think waiting until they "understand it" is way later than it should be.

Early exposure makes it more likely they will 'accept' it and not use it as a point of resentment. Further, as alexandyr85 says, most kids aren't stupid. They probably already know, or at least suspect, unless you don't see them often, which I hope is not the case.

Just tell them, but personally, I recommend doing so in a way other than "let's sit down and have a really serious discussion", I'd try to find a way to bring it up in a casual conversation that has a lead-in, like LGBT rights or watching a TV show that has an LGBT character in it or the like. It'll make it less awkward for both of you.

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Fri, 12 Sep 2014 16:01:21 GMT

ajax0980 — Fri, 12 Sep 2014 16:01:21 GMT

I came out to my oldest when he was 15 and brought up the subject: He's 33 now and our relationships is best described as estranged.
My other kids (currently 16 and 18) grew up with me being gay/bi so it was no big deal. My youngest is still too young to know what's up.

Reply to Coming out to children?? on Fri, 12 Sep 2014 06:10:04 GMT

alexandyr85 — Fri, 12 Sep 2014 06:10:04 GMT

Well, I only have experience as an uncle - but by 13 most of my nieces/nephews had figured it out on their own. Most kids, depending on where you live, have seen gay people on TV / the media - so they put the pieces together.

It's never better to leave it unsaid. It's possible one of your children might be gay - and if you hide it, then they'll think they need to hide it. Even if they aren't, however, keeping it a secret makes it seem like you have something to be ashamed of - which you don't.

The appropriate age really depends on the child - but kids will surprise you. By the time my niece and nephew were 13 and I had, "The talk," they were like, "Omggggggg old news."

If you think he is old enough to understand now - he was probably old enough to understand a while ago, and you should just tell him.