@bear1515:

It's because many people attribute it as being a thing that women do. That's why there is that stupid thing: The woman of the relationship.

Its just a extremely stupid concept that many people still use.

I really hate that, but I don't feel like the gay community has made it any better by accepting this. I hate when guys refer to their assholes as "pussy"!! But you hear it in porn, and all over the gay community. There's nothing attractive about that.

Indeed!  I was once in a scene where one of the guys kept going on about my "pussy".  At the first use of it, I excused myself for a couple minutes, second use of it I corrected him & third use of it I was out of there.

Also, real men take it up the ass!

Social attitudes man, I personally would like to be a bottom specially for a daddy but in a manly way kinda. 

Yup that's me too ! 

There are total tops who are effeminate, and also total bottoms who are as masculine as it is possible to be.  Just because you like getting fucked doesn't make you one or the other.

Perfect example is a truck driver friend of mine, fought in the first Iraq war, has muscles to die for, and loves nothing more than a dick up his arse, he looks, and behaves like a man, everywhere including the bedroom, there is NOTHING effeminate about him at all.  Perfect husband material (if I wanted one)

Across cultures we as a species seem to like to categorize things in dichotomy. Examples: Straight/gay, man/woman, good/bad, rich/poor, top/bottom, us/them, etc. I think it probably stems from the need for ease of identification. The problem is that such thinking, while easy and comfortable, is way too simple and doesn't reflect reality. And the values assigned to one side or the other usually cement these overly simplistic categories. In the West we're just starting to realize that humans are not dichotomies, instead we move along a spectrum. Look at the trans rights movement, and the awareness (and growing acceptance) accompanying it.

In most cultures, the top is perceived as masculine while the bottom as feminine. And we all know how women are thought of in may cultures. India, anyone? This is slowly changing in the West, although it still has a long way to go, as Danijelr15's comment shows. And it does take a "real man" to bottom. A "real man" in the sense that a Real Man doesn't give a flying fuck what other people think. To break a social norm requires guts and that, by my thinking, is "real man-ish," regardless of whether you prance around with limp wrists screaming "Oh Mary!", or go chugging beers with the bros wearing a flannel shirt and Levis.

A Real Man doesn't feel his masculinity is diminished by having a cock up his ass. A man who is insecure does. And that's the difference.

There's something absolutely hot about someone wanting you so badly that they need to be inside of you. And knowing that you control their pleasure and sensation in that moment. It's a form of "control" in and of itself.

There's such a thing as power-bottoming.

boifromaus86 - yes, there are blokes who like to bottom, but there are those blokes who have to be bottom because no matter how much they try, they can't top.

I'm more bottom then top but I enjoy it..

It takes a real man to bottom, trust and believe that!!

Please explain because I just don't get it. What is so real about being a bottom? I'm sorry, but by taking such pride in bottoming you're only emphasizing your femininity imo.

It's because many people attribute it as being a thing that women do. That's why there is that stupid thing: The woman of the relationship.

Its just a extremely stupid concept that many people still use.

I really hate that, but I don't feel like the gay community has made it any better by accepting this. I hate when guys refer to their assholes as "pussy"!! But you hear it in porn, and all over the gay community. There's nothing attractive about that.

Its just a extremely stupid concept that many people still use.