I'm getting married next year, probably in September and we intend to make it a proper wedding… Ceremony, a big party after the vows, family and everything...

What are your thoughts about it?

Though generally I think marriage is outmoded, just a way for the society to force people to stay together and to announce to it that someone is no longer available, thereby enforcing faithfulness even when the partner can't be trusted, it's fine if it makes people happy. And there are the legal ramifications to consider.

So, why not? It's about time that no one be spared the misery, sense of imprisonment, and the feeling of having a millstone hung around the neck that married people have been forced to experience all these centuries. All marriages are "same sex marriages" - it's the same sex, day after day.

These hypocritical assholes in the greek goverment made it clear that there wiil never allow gay marriage in Greece. Those pigs!

It will happen there, too, eventually. It's just that they are still a bit sensitive about the whole ancient man/boy thing from 2,000 years ago. Much of history has not been kind to them about that, so they don't want anyone to point and say, "See! I told you so!" But then if you have seen many Greek women, you'd wonder how they can make babies there at all.

@raphjd:

@gaygaye:

Wedding is a lie of heterosexual society, so why should we insist on this authoritarian practice? We must break the wheel, must not be part of it. Also even unmarried gays don't have a single relationship, so why should I trust a gay partner just we signed a contract? If you all gays are delusional or you just insist on this just for the sake of heterosexuals doing this. Universal stupidity?

Ok, so you like open relationships.  Good for you.

I like monogamy and so does my husband.

If you (generic) date a whore, they won't stop being a whore just because you married them.  There is only one person to blame for your partner being a whore; YOU (generic).   No one forced you to date that person.

I'm not a whore. I don't even know how can I be a one?

That's a false assumption that every married gays will be faithful each other forever. Even sex become a duty after a time. I know people are still on those stupid sites and their husbands know that (also why do I call them "husband" is a prove that we are under the pressure of heterosexual norms).

All we are gays, so telling lies isn't necessary here.

I didn't say you were a whore.  HOWEVER, you did say that unmarried gay couples aren't faithful.

Being gay DOES NOT stop us from wanting the same thing as heteros.

Just because I'm gay, doesn't mean that I eat dinner with 4 guys fisting me while another shits on my face.

Some people are delusional about the definition of a queen.  I know someone that does not view himself as a flaming queen, but wonders why everyone immediately knows he's gay.  When you talk about fashion and weddings and swish when you walk, etc., the list goes on, then you are a queen.

People know I'm immediately gay and I don't do anything like that. =(

@gaygaye:

Wedding is a lie of heterosexual society, so why should we insist on this authoritarian practice? We must break the wheel, must not be part of it. Also even unmarried gays don't have a single relationship, so why should I trust a gay partner just we signed a contract? If you all gays are delusional or you just insist on this just for the sake of heterosexuals doing this. Universal stupidity?

Ok, so you like open relationships.  Good for you.

I like monogamy and so does my husband.

If you (generic) date a whore, they won't stop being a whore just because you married them.  There is only one person to blame for your partner being a whore; YOU (generic).   No one forced you to date that person.

I'm not a whore. I don't even know how can I be a one?

That's a false assumption that every married gays will be faithful each other forever. Even sex become a duty after a time. I know people are still on those stupid sites and their husbands know that (also why do I call them "husband" is a prove that we are under the pressure of heterosexual norms).

All we are gays, so telling lies isn't necessary here.

Commitments can be made to each other, you can share the love in your relationship with your families and friends, you can dedicate a special day and celebrate it together for years to come and all without the pomp, ceremony and cost of a wedding. Love should be about what you share together, not about the formalities and expectations that a wedding brings.

Having said that, if I were to go down the whole public ceremony route with a special guy then I also like the fact that civil partnerships are just for gays, something we can do which straight people can't (at least for now) and that removes the religious element also so I'd still go for that option despite gay marriage now being legal.

@gaygaye:

Wedding is a lie of heterosexual society, so why should we insist on this authoritarian practice? We must break the wheel, must not be part of it. Also even unmarried gays don't have a single relationship, so why should I trust a gay partner just we signed a contract? If you all gays are delusional or you just insist on this just for the sake of heterosexuals doing this. Universal stupidity?

Ok, so you like open relationships.  Good for you.

I like monogamy and so does my husband.

If you (generic) date a whore, they won't stop being a whore just because you married them.  There is only one person to blame for your partner being a whore; YOU (generic).   No one forced you to date that person.

True dat

Wedding is a lie of heterosexual society, so why should we insist on this authoritarian practice? We must break the wheel, must not be part of it. Also even unmarried gays don't have a single relationship, so why should I trust a gay partner just we signed a contract? If you all gays are delusional or you just insist on this just for the sake of heterosexuals doing this. Universal stupidity?

Ok, so you like open relationships.  Good for you.

I like monogamy and so does my husband.

If you (generic) date a whore, they won't stop being a whore just because you married them.  There is only one person to blame for your partner being a whore; YOU (generic).  No one forced you to date that person.

@nordicblue:

@Minerboh80:

Why not?
If girls spend 99.99% of their brain power imagining their perfect wedding, then why can't we?

Are you a woman?  How do you make such a leap?

I am a man who had a lot of girls as best friends or just friends.
8 from ten have expressed their desire to marry.
They have also stated that they want the so called perfect ceremony.
Now, can i ask the purpose of your inquiry?

The first mistake is wanting it to be "perfect".

There's no such thing as perfect in life, you just have to accept things will fail and the two of you will be together hen it happens.

But since I'm not, I think I'd rather put a down payment in a house instead of paying for a huge ceremony.

:police:   Please stop fighting, guys.    :police:

See what you made me do?!   You made me get my mod color out.   :blink:

My apologies but since i do not critising people and display unneccerary amounts of sarcasm then i am entitled to demand the same behaviour from the other users.

See what you made me do?!  You made me get my mod color out.  :blink:

That's what happens you ask an extremely vague question.  If you know what a queen is then you know what I meant.

I didn't ask a vague question but i do have another…
And what gave you the impression that i want to be adressed by bitter people?

Are you asking what a queen is?

There are many types
Drag queen
Rice queen - a gay male who prefers or exclusively dates East Asian men.
Bean queen - a white male, who is primarily attracted to Hispanic and Latino males.
Refried bean queen - Hispanic and Latino men who prefer other Hispanic and Latino men.
Hummus queen - man, who prefers or exclusively dates Middle Eastern men.
Potato queen - a younger Asian man who dates older white men.
Curry queen - a gay male who prefers or exclusively dates South Asian men.
Size queen - a gay male who prefers or exclusively dates or has sex with men who have large penises or large build.
Gym queen - gay men who are into body building and working out either to bulk up and may include steroid use or those looking for a more lithe physique.[3] Although body building and male physique magazines were popular before the 1970s, the Castro clone look — workboots, jeans, tight white t-shirt, shorter well-kept hair, and a well-muscled physique — became widely known and emulated in the 1970s and 1980s replacing the hippie artictic constructs and fashions.
Spice queen - a gay/bisexual man, who prefers or exclusively dates Indian, Pakistani, and Bangladeshi men.
Sticky rice - an Asian who prefers or exclusively dates other Asian men too.
Mashed potato - a Caucasian person who prefers or exclusively dates other Caucasian men too.

I do not apprieciate sarcasm, pal.
You know very well what i meant with my question.

There are many types
Drag queen
Rice queen - a gay male who prefers or exclusively dates East Asian men.
Bean queen - a white male, who is primarily attracted to Hispanic and Latino males.
Refried bean queen - Hispanic and Latino men who prefer other Hispanic and Latino men.
Hummus queen - man, who prefers or exclusively dates Middle Eastern men.
Potato queen - a younger Asian man who dates older white men.
Curry queen - a gay male who prefers or exclusively dates South Asian men.
Size queen - a gay male who prefers or exclusively dates or has sex with men who have large penises or large build.
Gym queen - gay men who are into body building and working out either to bulk up and may include steroid use or those looking for a more lithe physique.[3] Although body building and male physique magazines were popular before the 1970s, the Castro clone look — workboots, jeans, tight white t-shirt, shorter well-kept hair, and a well-muscled physique — became widely known and emulated in the 1970s and 1980s replacing the hippie artictic constructs and fashions.
Spice queen - a gay/bisexual man, who prefers or exclusively dates Indian, Pakistani, and Bangladeshi men.
Sticky rice - an Asian who prefers or exclusively dates other Asian men too.
Mashed potato - a Caucasian person who prefers or exclusively dates other Caucasian men too.